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Frustrating Factors for Dogs
1.) Owner's leadership not established
2.) Emotional homecomings and/or departures
3.) Separation anxiety
4.) Isolation, especially during the critical socialization period
from five to 12 weeks of age
5.) Isolation as a form of punishment
6.) Restrictions of freedom
7.) Psychological trauma associated with a place or situation
8.) Physical abuse as a means of punishment
9.) Scolding in the aftermath
10.) Emotional stress of owner, even when stress is unrelated to
the dog
11.) Owner's dislike of dog
12.) Change of routine habit factors
13.) Any big change of environment such as relocating or owners
leaving on a vacation
14.) Boredom
15.) Physiological problems and/or illness
16.) Extreme weather conditions
17.) Lack of proper exercise
Is Your Dog As Frustrated As You Are?
I would like you to go through the following list and circle all
the frustrating factors that you think accurately describe your
situation. Typically, the more numbers you circle, the more frustrated
your dog is and vice versa. As you go through the list, I will give
you my interpretation of what each factor means, as well as solutions
or remedies.
1.) Owner's Leadership Not Established
The absence of owner leadership is frequently a reason why a dog
misbehaves. Acting out can be a way of establishing dominance. If
he lacks direction, he is more likely to take charge.
Solution: Obedience training
When you train your dog, you strengthen your
role as a leader. Your dog learns that he can look up to you for
direction, that you have something to show him, that you expect
something from him and that you expect him to be good. When you
are a good teacher, you become a good leader. This is very reassuring
to a dog.
Obedience commands are the tools you use to tell your dog what to
do instead of doing it for him. You can tell him to STAY rather
than holding him back from running out the door. You can tell him
to COME and SIT instead of grabbing him so he can't jump on someone.
Remember, all the NO's in the world won't tell a dog what you want.
Your directions acknowledge his intelligence and establish your
leadership.
An owner may say, "We don't need obedience training, he does everything
I ask; the dog is perfect except for this one problem." Obedience
training will make the difference even in this case, because the
dog may have learned to take your praise and affection for granted.
You're so pleased with him that he doesn't have to try to please
you anymore. We could compare it with the uneasy feeling of being
unemployed and needing a job. This makes your reaction to his misbehaving
more rewarding. Obedience training emphasizes the fact that he does
have a job and responsibilities. He does have to be a good dog for
your praise. If this sounds like your situation, you may start by
having him do things such as sitting before you pet him.
Another owner may reveal that there are other problems besides marking
which initiated their call for help. They seem to be constantly
correcting their dog for one thing or another. These owners really
"need" to put their dog into obedience training to give them opportunities
to praise their dog.
There are dogs that are so accustomed to an
owner's negative attention they are desensitized to it and find
it rewarding. Wesley C. Becker, in Parents are Teachers, refers
to this as "The Criticism Trap". It works this way (Becker used
the grumpy old school teacher as an example): The grumpy old school
teacher turns her back on the class to write on the chalkboard,
and instantly the kids are standing up or acting up. The teacher
turns around and yells, "Sit down!" The kids sit down and so the
teacher is rewarded for yelling, "Sit down" - but as soon as she
turns her back again, everyone is standing up again. Why? This is
to get her to yell: "Sit down!" That's the trap. We yell "NO!",
the dog quits, and we're rewarded, but then he does it again to
get us to yell "NO!" Negative attention can be very rewarding. Obedience
training is an opportunity for you to reward your dog for being
good and to motivate him to want to be good. I've always said that
a dog that knows he's good usually doesn't want to do bad things.
Yes, I am saying that dogs have a sense of self-esteem. A person
who values honesty wouldn't tell a lie because he or she values
the goodness of honesty. A dog that values being praised is more
correctable because he values being good.
2.) Emotional Homecomings and/or Departures
The owner who lectures his dog before leaving the house may be making
the situation worse. There is the self-fulfilling prophecy that
what you expect is what you get. "You be a good boy now and don't
chew anything!" We who believe in a dog's sixth sense will tell
you that he may actually receive the visualization you're sending
of his chewing and take it as a command. I recommend, for the same
reason, that you also not "think" about the things your dog may
be doing wrong in your absence. The owner who is sad about leaving
and shares these feelings leaves the dog depressed. A depressed
dog may act out as a way to express his frustration.
Solution: Your leaving and
returning should not be a big deal. You should not lecture your
dog before going out, or upon returning home. (See also #9: "Scolding
in the Aftermath")
3.) Separation Anxiety
Many social animals are distressed when separated from their companions
or loved ones. Feelings of loss are a result of love and attachment.
It is not uncommon for a child to throw a tantrum when left with
a baby-sitter, or an adult to feel depressed when his/her spouse
takes a trip. Dogs are, by nature, social, so they are more likely
to show distress when left alone. Emotional attachment is especially
important for animals whose survival is dependent on group living.
We've all heard the phrase, "dogs are pack
animals." While many dogs feel some level of frustration when left
alone, certain dogs express it by various behaviors such as chewing,
soiling in the house, barking etc. Why is it that some dogs tend
to exhibit separation distress more than others? It is not related
to sex or breed but mostly to personality types and a history of
seldom being left alone.
Solution: You can't always change what frustrates
your dog, but you can anticipate it and control the environment.
If your dog follows you everywhere when you are home, you could
try to create some ways to distance yourself when you are there
so that he won't be so upset when you leave. You could, for example,
have your dog lay and stay while you go out of sight for brief periods.
You can teach him to be more independent by not allowing him to
be constantly in your lap or at your feet. Your dog may have learned
that your picking up keys or your putting on shoes are signals that
you are leaving. If you have noticed that your dog is showing signs
of distress at these times, you may want to do some counter-conditioning.
Counter-conditioning means that you make new associations by giving
the same signals and pairing them with a wonderful dog treat. You
could begin practicing this several times each day but, of course,
not go anywhere.
Most dogs become frustrated and express their
frustrations in the first 30 minutes after the owner leaves. Retraining
would involve leaving for brief periods of time, such as 5 minutes,
10 minutes, then 5 minutes, then 8 minutes, then 15 minutes and
so on, working your way up to 45 minutes and one hour without incident.
Your dog will become accustomed to these short trips and will realize
you are coming back. When you can leave for 45 minutes and one hour
without a problem, you have made substantial progress.
None of these suggestions by themselves is a cure all. I would suggest
you work at this from every direction and consult with a trainer.
4.) Isolation, Especially During Critical
Socialization Periods From 5 to 12
Weeks of Age
When a puppy is removed from its littermates before the age of seven
weeks, isolated from learning critical socialization skills it suffers
frustration. Another example is a puppy that was raised in a kennel
situation where it was isolated from everything including people.
This puppy, as a result may grow up to be fearful of everyone and
everything - an unhappy way to live.
Solution: If your dog is fearful,
it is never too late to help him build confidence. A true leader
and teacher will help him to face his fears and overcome them. Unfortunately,
many people want to avoid any conflicts because they believe it
is the kind thing to do. This only compounds the problem. You can
either choose to support your dog so that he becomes more confident
or you can avoid conflicts and have your dog continue to be fearful.
If you choose to help him become more confident, you can start by
making a list of all the things that frighten him and begin your
counter-conditioning. You may want to enroll the services of a dog
trainer. This type of healing will produce a happier dog and a better
behaved one.
5.) Isolation as a Form of Punishment
I know that "time out" works with children, but as a form of punishment
it is not effective with dogs. It may actually backfire by contributing
to even worse behavior when he is out of isolation. While isolation
can be a preventive measure, it does not teach the dog how to behave
which means that at some point he will have to be isolated again.
Solution: If you are tempted to isolate your dog because he is misbehaving,
you should stop and ask yourself what you want him to do instead.
Then, teach him how to do that.
6.) Restrictions of Freedom
This is about animals that are confined too much.
It could be that the owner has overused the crate or other confinement
techniques. It also could be that the owner thinks a yard is all
the freedom a dog needs. If you live on a property of several acres
or on a farm or ranch your dog probably has a wonderful life outdoors.
However in urban areas most yards just aren't big enough. (A scale
for comparison would be the wolf in the wild that is estimated to
travel as much as 90 miles per day.)
Solution: Dogs need change.
They need to be in the house as well as outside, go for walks and
rides, and have freedom and variety.
7.) Psychological Trauma Associated
with a Place or Situation
Solution: When you can help your dog get over his fears in these
areas, you will have a more confident and secure animal. You may
want to enlist a dog trainer to help you safely overcome these fears
in your dog.
8.) Physical Abuse as a Means of Punishment
Physical punishment, such as hitting a dog should be avoided, not
because it won't work but because it can cause problems you do not
want.
Some dogs become submissive from being hit.
A submissive dog may have problem behaviors such as cowering, submissive
wetting, excessive barking etc. These are not behaviors you want
in your dog.
Physical abuse as a means of punishment may
make another dog aggressive. Again, this is not the result you want.
We know what the aggressive dog is capable of doing. Excessive punishment
or abuse will make the situation worse by frustrating your dog further,
and a frustrated dog will exhibit behaviors, which will continue
to create problems for you.
Physical abuse also will have the opposite
effect of establishing a healthy rewarding relationship. He will
only want to escape and avoid the person who abuses him as opposed
to being open and receptive to learning.
Solution: If you catch your
dog in the act of doing something wrong, there is certainly nothing
wrong with a good scolding. The punishment should only be enough
to upset your dog. A good scolding may help the dog change his mind
about the pleasures of misbehaving. It is important that an effective
correction be followed with redirection, showing the dog what he
should do instead. It is also important to reassure your dog within
10 or 15 minutes that you love him. He has to know that it was the
behavior, not him that you disliked.
9.) Scolding in the Aftermath
The "aftermath" means that more than three minutes have elapsed
since the incident and you're finding it. It's now too late for
a scolding. Your searching the house as soon as you get home and
scolding him if he did urinate, or giving him a cookie if he didn't,
may make sense to you; however, it doesn't to your dog.
Scolding in the aftermath can actually create
the circumstances you're trying to eliminate. Dogs have a biological
clock that tells them when you get home. If you frequently come
home and get angry, that's the pattern your dog will expect. The
anticipation of your angry arrival may trigger the problem behavior
as a way of venting. Dogs learn differently and make different associations
from you or me. I have heard people say, "I know he knows because
when I come home and he has urinated, he's cowering or hiding."
Haven't there been times when you have come home, and he's acted
as if he had done something, yet you can't find it anywhere?
I have also heard, "I know he knows because
I just point to it and he takes off." That's because he has learned
that that's what you do before you get angry.
Did you hear the story about the man who decided
he was going to teach his dog a thing or two? He came home one day
and found that his dog had done his business right there on the
kitchen floor. So he shook the dog and threw him out the window.
The next day he came home to the same mess, so again he took him
and shook him and threw him out the window. The third day he came
home - and the dog jumped out the window.
Scolding in the aftermath does not work for
the majority of dogs. The only association a dog makes in the aftermath
is that a mess in your presence means trouble. He still doesn't
associate punishment with the act unless you actually catch him
in the act.
Solution: It is only effective to scold your dog when you catch
him in the act or when it has been no longer than three minutes
since the incident occurred.
10.) Emotional Stress of Owner, Even
When Stress is Unrelated to The Dog
Dogs are sensitive to their owner, and I can think of many examples
of how amazingly sensitive they are. One of my favorites is the
service dog who can actually notify his owner who is about to have
an epileptic seizure, which gives the owner time to lay down in
a safe position. Is there any doubt that dogs are sensitive to our
moods? I have gone to homes on numerous occasions where the owner
was totally puzzled as to why his/her adult dog, that had never
been a problem, was suddenly doing terrible things. They would exclaim,
"As if life isn't bad enough! Frank died a month ago, I lost my
job and now this - even the dog has gone sour." The owner doesn't
realize that the dog is misbehaving solely because it is stressed
because his/her owner is under so much stress.
Solution: Do you remember the routine you had with your dog when
life wasn't so stressful? It will be good therapy for both of you
to resume that routine. Let your dog do his job of cheering you
up.
11.) Owner's Dislike of Dog
Dogs are sensitive and not easily fooled. They can feel when the
owner dislikes them.
Many people begin to dislike their dog because they believe that
their dog is spiteful. The owner will say, "I know he's just being
spiteful; he was mad when I left." Dogs are not spiteful creatures.
If I have learned anything from dogs, it's the true meaning of unconditional
love. I'm sure you have heard, DOG spelled forwards or backwards
is unconditional love. Yes, your dog was upset and yes, that's what
contributed to the behavior, but no, he did not do it to get back
at you.
Solution: It is important
to understand the difference between not liking a dog as opposed
to not liking his behavior. For example, you catch your dog in the
act of chewing. You should scold him and let him know in no uncertain
terms that the behavior is bad. After five or ten minutes have passed,
it is very important to act like all is forgotten. You should let
him know in some way that you're still buddies. It's important to
communicate that it's not him you dislike but rather his behavior.
It is fruitless to stay angry for long periods of time. If you feel
your relationship has been damaged, obedience training can help.
12.) Change of Routine Habit Factors
Routine in our lives gives us a sense of stability. It is frustrating
when you suddenly can't do something that you routinely do each
day. How would you feel if you woke up one morning and realized
that there was no toothpaste in the house! Most dogs find comfort
in, and rely on, a routine.
Solution: First, it is important
to avoid breaking the routine as much as possible. Secondly, you
can compensate for a break in routine by substituting. For example,
you can't go for that 20-minute walk before work but you could play
ball for five minutes. Thirdly, if you have to change the routine
and you know your dog will act up, you can perhaps avoid trouble
by controlling the environment and reducing the opportunity for
misbehavior.
13.) Any Big Change in The Environment,
Such as Relocating or Owners Leaving
for Vacation
This can be very upsetting to a dog.
Solution: It is important
to soften the blow any way you can. If you anticipate trouble, try
to avoid giving him the opportunity. I believe more dogs start new
bad habits when their owners go on vacation than at any other time.
Maybe the house sitter shouldn't give him the liberties or opportunities
he has when you're at home.
14.) Boredom
The more intelligent the dog, the more easily bored he can become.
It is usually the very intelligent dog that gets into trouble.
Solution: It is important
to have routine rituals such as regular feeding times and walks
or indoor versus outdoor times. Obedience training also can resolve
some of the frustration of boredom that dogs feel. It gives you
more ways to interact when you are together.
15.) Physiological Problems and/or
Illness
A physical illness, infection or disorder of some type can certainly
influence behavior.
Solution: It is always a good idea to consult with your veterinarian
and rule out the possibility of any physical problems that could
be contributing to behavior problems.
16.) Extreme Weather Conditions
The weather can affect the behavior of a dog. Thunderstorms can
be traumatic emotionally for some dogs just as humidity can be physically
painful to the arthritic dog.
Solution: It would be a good idea to consult with your veterinarian.
You can't change the weather, but you can take preventive measures
to make your dog as comfortable as possible so that he doesn't have
the opportunity to regress.
17.) Lack of Proper Exercise
All dogs require some exercise, and the requirements will vary according
to the breed and age of the dog. When these requirements are not
fulfilled, problems with behavior may be the result.
Solution: Exercise is
an excellent preventative; it generally produces an overall happier
dog. There is a wise saying that a tired dog is a good dog. Exercise
doesn't always mean going for a walk. It could mean playing a game
such as throwing a ball. If for some reason you can't personally
exercise your dog, you can perhaps find someone to help.
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